Some people whom we meet or know tend to attract us more. Their behavior, appearance, manner of speaking or the philosophy of life they follow often plays a major role in this. However, no matter how attractively some people speak, it does not necessarily mean that we will be impressed by them-because we already know what they are like and who they really are. If we make certain personal efforts, we can become more attractive in the eyes of others. What should be done for this?
The first and foremost thing is to pay attention to health matters. People tend to feel attracted to someone who takes care of their body and health with respect-someone who follows a proper diet, avoids anything harmful to the body and moves forward with regular exercise.
Likewise, one should use one’s income in a controlled manner. For some people, expenses exceed income. As a result, they borrow money from others for their needs. There are people who spend their entire monthly salary within a few days and then start asking for money from the very next day. On seeing such people, others tend to avoid them. Maintaining honesty in financial matters and avoiding unnecessary expenses is important.
There are also people who speak pleasantly to outsiders and show readiness to help in every situation, but display a completely different nature within the family. They may neglect their parents, behave inappropriately toward their life partner, and fail to fulfill their responsibilities. Society may sometimes interact and speak well with such people, but deep inside, society evaluates them only with contempt and ridicule. This is because a person who does not do justice to their own family will always be looked down upon-will be unattractive. A person who takes good care of the family will be respected and honored in society.
Another important thing is to maintain integrity toward the people we associate with and the matters we are involved in. Love should exist in actions, not merely be expressed through words. Without judging by face-whether someone is great or small, high or low- give every person the place and consideration they deserve.
Some people interact with others only by looking at their position and status: utter contempt toward those below them and blind obedience toward those above them. Understand that this is merely a way of serving one’s own interests. Try to interact with others by abandoning the ‘I’ attitude. There are people who think they are something special- everyone else is beneath them, everyone must obey them and everyone must do as they say. Such people are never attractive.
One should be ready to listen to what others say. Be open to the thought that there may be value not only in what I say, but also in what they say. No one will abandon people who are willing to love.
All these are some of the reasons why others may feel attracted to us. What is needed is to move life, words and actions together.
When words and actions are torn away from life, be careful not to become hollow.
