Everyone wants a word of forgiveness for life’s mistakes and stumbling blocks. But only a few people get such a word often. Even if you say you have forgiven, there is not necessarily complete forgiveness. Apologizing is a deliberate and voluntary process. Forgiveness involves consciously letting go of such feelings without holding grudges or revenge against the person who has hurt you.
True forgiveness requires three things.
1. The first of which is total decriminalization.
2. Forbearance with the wrongdoer
3. Absolution from guilt
It is not just because you say that you have forgiven, but only when these three things are fulfilled in their broadest sense, forgiveness is complete.
There is also such a form of forgiveness as unilateral forgiveness. Here we don’t forgive a person just because he asked. Rather, it may be due to the size of our own mind or by realizing that the person deserves forgiveness. Usually, this kind of forgiveness is seen in relation to the lives of holy men.
Every forgiveness is a second chance given to another person. A chance to understand and correct. A chance to understand, connect, and hold together instead of blaming, isolating, and alienating. Think about how many opportunities we have missed like this.
